What is Chastity Play?
Chastity Play:
“Chastity Play” is a phrase often used to refer to male chastity, but as many loving couples know it is so much more than “play”.
Male chastity is an intensely intimate love-style which initially fuelled by fantasy is a sensual practice, that can heighten eroticism, and make foreplay seem for ever lasting. It’s something enjoyed by more and more couples, particularly those in their late 30s and beyond. Chastity has a unique and very special appeal particularly to couples who are a in a long term, loving, relationship.
Wearing a chastity device places a different emphasis on the genitals, you can no longer take your penis for granted. All direct sexual contact, from masturbation to sex, is prevented, as are affairs and infidelity. Once your penis is locked in chastity and becomes inaccessible, every other part of your body becomes the playground of eroticism, as you become more aware of your other erogenous zones.
When Chastity Becomes More than Play:
As the chastity experience moves from Chastity Play to longer term wear a man in chastity learns to explore the sexuality within his relationship. He learns sensuality and the importance of placing his lover’s needs and desires above his own lust. He discovers the pleasure of pleasing, and realises that sex is no longer simply focused on the penis, intercourse and ejaculation. Men who learn this often find themselves enjoying and sharing the fruits of a wonderful relationship.
The components of Male Chastity Are:
In addition to a couple being in a loving relationship and able to share sexual secrets what makes male chastity work is a combination, or all, of the following elements:
- A desire to be faithful and true to one another
- You’ve enjoyed games of Chastity Play and wish to move your experience forward.
- Will power to avoid masturbation
- Inability to touch your penis
- Orgasm Denial
- Your keyholder enjoys the experience and protects the trust you’ve place in her
- A Cum-Day to look forward to!
- The wearing of a chastity belt or device
- An enjoyment and enthusiasm for fantasy enactment
- Taking a break now and then from Chastity so that it doesn’t become the norm and therefore loses many of its delights
You may notice that we’ve not included the following in the list above; Dominance, submission, bondage, or Tease & Denial. These personal traits or fantasy preferences are not absolutely essential for male chastity. Male chastity can be whatever you want it to be, but we’d recommend once your personal understanding of chastity has developed and your confidence has built that you try at little D/s at least once – it can add spice, excitement and arousal to the bedroom and bring back the sparkles and electricity felt during the early days of your relationship.
It’s quite common for couples to experiment with chastity and find that it later brings out the feminine dominance of wives and girlfriends.
What Male Chastity is Not:
- Male Chastity within a loving relationship is not about having your penis locked up and forgotten about. That’s entirely different, as it would be without any promise of sexual pleasure and should perhaps be considered as celibacy.
- Male Chastity does not mean you’ll never experience sexual pleasure again. Chastity offers a fulfilling sex life, arousal, pleasure and fun, but in a different way. A way where your attention is focused on your Goddess rather than your own penis, this means that sexual delights have much less to do with with traditional “penis-in-vagina” intercourse.
- Wearing a Chastity Device does not mean you’re sexually inadequate. You can be masculine, virile, sexually able and enjoy wearing a chastity device.
- Male Chastity and wearing a chastity device is not about turning your wife or girlfriend in to a Dominatrix. If it’s not in her nature, your Goddess may not be able to enjoy your style of male chastity. Many women can and do enjoy being involved and welcome being a part of your chastity fantasy without the need to be strict and domineering. Others start to read internet articles, blogs and retailers websites to discover more about chastity and domination, and surprise themselves at how appealing the idea is. She may adapt what she reads to her own nature, and find a feminine way of being your Goddess without becoming a leather clad, over-powering Domme. It means she will become YOUR Mistress, in her own way, and you will need to adjust your fantasies to include her needs and desires.
What is Male Chasity to You?
The male chastity experience begins with experimentation and chastity play, whatever you and your Goddess believe chastity involves, then that what’s right for your relationship. It means differing things to different people. Providing both you and your Goddess are enjoying it, then that’s what matters most. This may or may not include a little Tease and Denial, or perhaps bedroom scenes of D/s, it may involve you wearing a strap on dildo harness to please your Lady whilst you’re locked in and denied, it could mean you become involved with the day to day management of house hold tasks, it may be a release for your submissive self, it may become an all encompassing love-style which extends from the bedroom into other areas of life. It can be whatever you want. So longs as it’s fun, there are benefits to be enjoyed by both of you.