Female Submissiveness in Sensual BDSM Play


Power Exchange and Submission

Being Submissive in Sensual BDSM Play

Submissiveness is sensual, erotic, and fun. It creates within us an overwhelming desire to please, to give, to love, and contains such an understanding of trust between lovers. Willingly submitting to your lover is an exchange of energy involving a combination of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual needs and desires. Though submission it is possible to discover personal and interpersonal growth and can even be an avenue for healing.

Games of submission and dominance are a theatre of performances in which the submissive gives the gift of trust. She allows herself to become vulnerable, and during sensual games she gives to her Master her physical, emotional and spiritual safety. She gives the gift of submission from her heart and soul.

Female submission and sexually submitting to your lover is not about being forced into submission. Submission is about a special love, a special desire, shared between two people who are very aware of each other’s needs. Games of Dominance and Submission are about turning erotic fantasies into sensual reality, which can involve aspects of very special pain. A pain which is needed, a pain of desire, a pain which hurts, and yet causes no harm.

BDSM and particularly spanking is less commonly hardcore sadomasochism, it is consensual, loving and sensual, remarkably subtle, and highly erotically charged.


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Submissiveness during sensual play is not a display of weakness of character. It is not a lack of self confidence, nor is it a lack of assertiveness, but it can be considered as a desire to please, to put her Master’s needs before her own, to obey instructions and follow commands.

The erotic power exchange within the theatre of Dominance and Submission is to some extent controlled by the submissive partner, not the dominant player. It is the submissive partner who sets the boundaries and limits for play. It is she who chooses to give herself to her lover, and it is she who has the security of “safe words” and can call an end to play.

The erotic power exchange within D/s role play has many intricacies – it is the Dominant partner who also desires to please his lover by offering his control of her body, her mind and her soul.

It can therefore be concluded that the psychology of healthy BDSM play is driven equally by both lovers, each desire to please the other, and in so doing both attain fulfilment of their own needs through sensual games. Players of discipline, spanking, flogging, and bondage games are very aware of each other needs, they are in tune with one another’s desire, sensuality, emotions, and spirituality. They are highly aware of each others needs and their love for one another.

Discipline, spanking, flogging, caning, restraining or being restrained by your lover, blindfolding, firmly offering, or willingly obeying, commands and instructions, and a desire to submit or dominate are elements of sensual power exchange. Such sensual games are part of BDSM.

BDSM and particularly spanking is less commonly hardcore sadomasochism, it is consensual, loving and sensual, remarkably subtle, and highly erotically charged. Restraining your lover to the bed, using your voice to tease their mind, running silk, ice cubes, or the tails of flogger over your lover’s body all qualify as BDSM “sensation play”.

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Video : Spank – H Morgen
Photo: Waiting Master’s Touch – Tickleberry
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Further Reading:

The Importance of Your Commands
The ‘Full Body’ Orgasm
Establishing Your Authority

Suggested Reading:

Visit our Spanking Forum – Join and share your experiences and desires!
Fun at the Spanking Booth
Keep Calm and Bend Over! Make your own Posters
After the Spanking – Tell Me How You Feel
Safewords and How To Use Them

Saskia Zenn

 
About the Author… Saskia Zenn has worked for the last fifteen years in Marketing and PR. Over the course of her career, Saskia has managed all forms of Public Relations and Marketing campaigns for several high-profile and international organisations, and it is this flair and creativity which she brings to the new Tickleberry website.

“Becoming a co-owner of Tickleberry is a fantastic opportunity for me to bring together my personal and professional passions to create a really meaningful resource website for the BDSM community.”

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